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Marriage means something

Being married is underrated. I love the partnership that my husband I have where we plan and make goals together. Sometimes it’s hard for us to find like-minded couples to fellowship with as we are constantly working on our connection to each other and the world that surrounds us. You see, I never want people to feel like I’m bragging about us or to think like we have a perfect union because we don’t. I choose to see good in all situations my marriage included. We have been a work in progress over the last 11 1/2 years. We have had our shares of high ups and deep deep deep downs, but through love, we have decided to stay and build a life together. That to me is the epitome of marriage, building together through thick, thin, ups, downs and being there for each other through your weakest points. Learning how to be yourself in consideration of someone else and becoming a better version of yourself in service to your partner, is what marriage means to me. Not considering having one foot out the door but being all in. That goes for both people. I love my husband. I have not always been the best wife, but I love him for continuing to be by my side and accepting the very worst in me and I have done the same for him. We continue to build each other up and that is what I love. I am independent yet submissive. I am a dreamer yet I take my husband’s realism into account with every move I make. This journey we have embarked on started as two individuals that continued to live like they were single and now has morphed into a union of two individuals that have come together for a common purpose through love and sacrifice. To me, marriage is a bigger deal than people make it out to be especially if not surrounded by people that share similar values. I'm standing on this platform celebrating our union. This one's for you, babe. 




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