Passionately Managing Life

​ God will sit you down to teach a lesson. I have been sidelined by sickness and tragedy repeatedly and there was always a lesson in it. Whenever I am doing too much or over exerting myself. Whenever I am worrying instead of having faith or fretting instead of trusting myself I get sat down.   One of my good friends is having a hard time in multiple life areas. I told him he needs to try to take time for himself to rest because nothing in life is making sense right now. He was worried about everything and not trusting his own instincts. He's ones of the most creatively, energetic, charismatic people I know and he's become bogged down in life. My advice is always to find a way to focus on the positive and a space for himself outside of the madness. Then it just so happened that his body made him rest. Took him completely out of commission. Now the things that seemed so overwhelming may have lost their importance. In an instant.  The thing I found interesting about this global...

​ I took a break from social media as a sacrifice during the Lenten season. i often participate in lent which is a Christian tradition of sacrifice as a way to help RECenter myself and refocus. this year I took the 40 days to stay off of Instagram Facebook as found they are particularly addictive distractions for me and I used that time to do more things that are in alignment with the woman I want to become. I love to read and I used the time to read more. I didn't just read anything I am building the habit of listening to more positive words, more positive authors, more meaningful podcast and ingesting things they are more uplifting empowering and positive all around. I used the time to limit activity that did not make me feel good. I listened to more music with uplifting content. I watched more empowering television and videos. it felt like when I did spend my time consuming media it was more purposefully and intentionally. At the end of the fast and I return to social media I...

​ I get reminded on almost a daily basis how incredibly blessed I am. Whenever I am down and out or when I think that I am not good enough, I get a sign that I am on the path I'm supposed to be on. Sometimes I feel that I should be farther along financially, spiritually or professionally and I get a sign that makes me even more thankful for what I do have. Sometimes I feel like I'm not good enough at being a wife and mother and then my family shows me that I am exactly what they need. Sometimes professionally I think that I'm not a good teacher or counselor and then I get a text message telling me how much I inspired a young person to do the right thing. I beat myself up a lot or at least I used to, but there are pieces of motivation and inspiration out in the world that come back to you at the exact moment you need it. I'm good at telling people they are good enough, that they can do anything they put their minds to, but I often need my own reminder. So every day I wor...

​ The death of the student at Lincoln University has me feeling pretty down. As a parent who had a child at the school, I feel incredibly sad about the situation. The fact that a student lost his life in a dormitory is pretty upsetting. To know that there was a fight that precipitated the death in the dorm hall, that non-students were involved and allegedly stabbed individuals at will in the dorm has me feeling uneasy all around. A dormitory on campus is supposed to be safe. The thing that really bothers me is the perception of safety is lost. It is bothering me because as a Black counselor who sends students to this particular institution yearly, as a mother who sent her child to the school it saddens me to know that this type of behavior happens frequently often going unchecked and that it seems as if the life of a black male student is not as valuable. I kept checking news channels to see what the coverage would be like for this young man who was killed, because he was from Philadel...

I spent today counseling and advising students, colleagues, former students, and family members. All day giving advice and talking to people. I talked so much today. I actually only taught for about two hours but I felt like I spread myself out to reach as many people as I could. when I think of the word impact I think about how what I do and say can breathe life into someone else so much so that they can go on and do the impossible. A huge highlight of today was being able to celebrate former students and highlight them for black history month. Young adults in their mid-20s who are starting in their careers, who graduated from college, trade school or began business ventures. Being able uplift them in this way made them happy. Hell it made my day as well. Coupling those feelings of excitement with some disappointment. The fact that there was one thing today that I wanted to attain but wasn’t able to impacted me pretty deeply. It always hurts to fail at something but knowing that I tri...

​ Sometimes the simplest things can make you feel real good.     I know my worth. I know what I can do. I know what is possible. I can encourage so many people. I sit and give advice all the time, but I can take advice too. I love to be challenged and I love when I get inspired by my surroundings. The motivational words people speak whether directly to me or in my presence and I love feeling like I can do anything. I love it when others believe in me too. I am who I am because of those that came before me and those that push me along the way. I honestly and truly love it. My feel-good thoughts for today.