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Lesson in the Quiet Places

God will sit you down to teach a lesson. I have been sidelined by sickness and tragedy repeatedly and there was always a lesson in it. Whenever I am doing too much or over exerting myself. Whenever I am worrying instead of having faith or fretting instead of trusting myself I get sat down. 

One of my good friends is having a hard time in multiple life areas. I told him he needs to try to take time for himself to rest because nothing in life is making sense right now. He was worried about everything and not trusting his own instincts. He's ones of the most creatively, energetic, charismatic people I know and he's become bogged down in life. My advice is always to find a way to focus on the positive and a space for himself outside of the madness. Then it just so happened that his body made him rest. Took him completely out of commission. Now the things that seemed so overwhelming may have lost their importance. In an instant. 

The thing I found interesting about this global pandemic that we have all been living through over the past almost 3 years is that it forced the world to rest. To sit, to reflect, to meditate, to be still and many times that is exactly what we need in order to figure out what our next steps are. In life we need to slow down to focus. We need to be quiet in order to identify our next move. We need to be still so that we can pay attention to what's most important. Sometimes all the noise, chaos and seemingly never ending list of tasks blinds us from what is most important. Our mind, body, & soul knows exactly what it needs. It knows when it needs to rest. It knows when we need to stop and reflect. The answer to all of our problems lies in the quiet pieces of our lives, the times when we sit still. I believe that we have an inner spirit that whispers to us when we are doing too much. We have an intuition that lets us know not only right from wrong, but when we need to just stop. I've begun to lean more heavily into the times of stillness. I am learning to put focus on my inner thoughts and feelings during times of strife because that is where the answers lie. You think clearly when the noise subsided. Because one thing worrying doesn't do is solve any problems. 

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